Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Being Taken Advantage of for Liking a Certain Race....??

I was having a discussion with a friend about why I have the preference that I have for East Asian men, and why I made the choice that I made to date them. She was saying that if a guy finds out that I only date exclusively outside the race, and that I only date guys of his race. That he will try to take advantage of me, because of that. You know, because I like him, and I'm attracted to him. She was telling me this, because this was something that happened to her, when she was dating outside the race. She said that some of the guys took advantage of her, because she liked them, and they were nonblack (she's black).

I think she was just choosing the wrong guys to date, and be with. Because anyone of any race can take advantage of someone, and she knows this.

So what do you guys think?

Do you think that this is just a scare tactic to keep people (especially black women) from dating outside the race?

Because what she told me was no different than what other people say to prevent black women from thinking about dating outside the race. I know she didn't mean to come off that way, because she doesn't care if black women or if anyone else dates/marries outside the race as long as its for logical reasons. I'm doing it for good, valid logical reasons, and I told her that. I'm not doing it to be spiteful and mean.

So if any of you have been told this by a friend or relative, because of your preference for Asian men. How did you deal with it?

I'm asking this question, because I think its ridiculous how we have some people out there, who will say/do anything to keep people from dating outside the race. I'm not going to let my friend's bad experiences with interracial dating and what other people say/do keep me from pursuing my preference, and scare me away from being interested in Asian men.

I'm not going to live in fear, because of this, and you shouldn't either. If you like East Asian men, and you have a serious attraction to them. I would advice you to keep on pursuing it, and not worry about what other people have to say about it. Because that's what I'm going to do! :)

But if anyone can answer my questions.
Please put your answers in the comments section.

I'll be back later with more posts!

Sayonara for now!!


  1. OH GOD! more crazy talk! its good that you stand your ground girl, your friend obviously has no clue what she is talking about. They took advantage of her because they were just low life guys. that's it. I love how you stand your ground!

  2. yes i have to keep standing my ground! i'm not letting anyone put fear into me like this.

  3. I've haven't been told exactly this, but i have been told worse. The thing is; dealing with these type of people is like running a dirt circle looking for a corner, there is no corner and it's gonna stay like that. Best thing in my opinion is just to tell them something very smart ass and what will make their heads hurt from thinking about what you said, and move on. People who choose to not live well and are stuck in their small ass worlds, won't ever get it. Then probably analyze weather they are the kind of people you want to share a friendship with; sometimes we outgrow people especially when they have old ideas about life and such.

  4. How would I make a smart ass comment to people, who say these kind of things to me? What exactly would I say to them?

  5. I can't believe there are actually black women who likes asian guys!!! I'm asian, chinese actually, and I've always thought that you black women will never ever fancy us! I'm truly flattered.

  6. Oh btw, I would like to befriend you, on facebook or something. We're geographically separated, but I'm really interested in your culture (not those dramatic ones from the movies)!

  7. @randypng, here's my facebook, Tia Johnson. I'll look for you on facebook.

  8. @randypng, i may be blocked. so type my email address in to find me,, an then add me.

    i cant add you on your facebook, because of the friends or friends block.

  9. @Tokyo, I searched for your email and came up with nothing; searched for your name and came up with a million entries :( anyway, I changed my profile privacy settings so maybe you could try adding me again? my email's ;)